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What My Wife Has Taught Me About Blogging After Just 3 Months

Posted By Darren Rowse 15th of November 2013 Featured Posts, General 0 Comments

Next week marks the 3 month anniversary of Vanessa (my wife) starting her first blog at Style and Shenanigans.

It’s been a fascinating process to watch her plan, launch and grow her blog.

Some might imagine that being married to ‘the ProBlogger’ means she’s constantly being told what to do and being given secret tips and advice – however I’ve been remarkably restrained in my involvement and very impressed by what she’s intuitively built already.

While she’s not got a huge readership – it continues to grow and it has already opened up some pretty cool opportunities for her.

In fact having watched her over these last 3 months I have been somewhat inspired and learned a lot and in this post want to share some of the things I think she’s done well that have helped her to grow her blog’s traffic and profile already.

My hope is that in doing so it’ll help others at the beginning of their blogging journey to get their blogs rolling.

1. Focus Upon Community Management

Perhaps the #1 thing that I’ve been impressed with so far is Vanessa’s commitment to engaging with her readership.

This has shone through in a number of ways including:

  • writing in an engaging style – most of her posts end with a question that invites comment
  • every comment on the blog is responded to
  • every comment on her Facebook Page is responded to
  • every incoming Tweet to our Twitter account is responded to

This is partly just who Vanessa is (she’s very engaging and inclusive in real life) but was something that probably stretched her a little too. I remember in the early days when she would get comments from people she didn’t know for the first few times it was certainly a bizarre feeling for her to engage with them – but she’s fully into the swing of things now!

Interestingly she’s now well and truly passed the tipping point of having more ‘strangers’ reading her blog and following her on Facebook and Twitter than she has ‘real life’ friends.

2. Personal/Personality Driven Content

Screen Shot 2013-11-14 at 8.15.43 pmI wrote a few weeks ago about Vanessa’s first foray into including a few ‘selfies’ on the blog. These more personal ‘Everyday Style’ posts have continued and have been received well (they’ve been the most commented posts on the site). In fact her ‘Everyday Style’ series of posts have become something she’s become well known for of late.

Other experiments with a more personal style of content included a post about a dinner party we threw for a few friends and a couple of posts about a short trip we took.

And then there’s Facebook…. this for me has been one of the most fascinating parts of the journey because her blog Facebook Page has gone ‘off topic’ and into a more personal space than I would have predicted.

There are certainly the predictable updates that are links to new posts on the blog – but mixed in are plenty of slightly more personal updates. Photos from things she’s doing, questions, funny family moments, personal quick tips and random off topic humorous posts.

The result is that she’s got a page with pretty high engagement – in fact if I had the engagement she had on my pages relative to how many people were ‘liking’ my pages I’ve be over the moon!

3. Helpful Content

The other key thing that I think is going to work in Vanessa’s favour is that the bulk of her content on the blog is ‘helpful’ and solves problems for readers.

V is what Malcom Gladwell would describe a ‘Maven’. She is a gatherer of information, a watcher of trends and LOVES sharing what she finds. She’s been doing this on the topic of style in her friendship circles since before I met her and her blog is an extension of that.

The bulk of her content reflects that and is basically her curated collections of different themes of fashion and home wares.

Her typical posts feature a collection of suggested products on a colour style or brand theme and the comments I see on them are often people saying thanks for the suggestions.

Update: She’s also experimented with seasonal posts – for example Kris Kringle Ideas for Christmas.

Also of interest to me is that I’m starting to see readers leave messages asking for advice on particular areas based upon her posts.

4. Understanding the Audience

Her 7am post - got decent engagement.

Her 7am post – got decent engagement.

This morning Vanessa was posting an update to Facebook at 7am and I suggested that it might be a bit too early in the morning for her readers to be checking Facebook.

She responded that it was one of her best times of day and that when she posted that early she often got a lot of responses by 8am as people checked their phones over breakfast.

I had my doubts but as I ate my porridge I watched the comments come in on Facebook and the blog and realised she had her finger on the rhythms of her readership perfectly.

Also of interest is that she’s already noticed that some days of the week seem to get more comments on posts than others and that certain types of Facebook updates at certain times of the day get more interaction.

This is golden information!

5. Getting OFF her Blog

I’m always talking here on ProBlogger about how important it is to ‘get off your blog’ if you want to grow traffic and to monetise your blog.

Vanessa has intuitively started to do this without much prompting at all.

It is a challenge – she’s a busy person with 3 active boys (two home during the day), working a day a week, involved in a variety of community activities etc – but she’s going beyond just writing content and responding to comments.

This has happened in a variety of ways including:

  • when she’s mentioned brands or other sites in her posts she lets them know (this has already led to one brand suggesting that they might like to work with her and others linking up to her blog!)
  • reading and engaging on other relevant sites/Facebook pages
  • involvement in a small Facebook group for other bloggers in her niche
  • responding to opportunities that other bloggers and media have already offered her to guest post on them

By no means is it easy to get everything done (and there will always be more that you can do) but I’m always amazed at what happens when you push open doors and get active about engaging off your blog with others.

The key lesson here is to not just build a great blog and expect good things to happen to you. You need to take some initiative and get off your blog to see those good things come into being!

6. Involving Others

Screen Shot 2013-11-14 at 8.22.52 pmIt was several years after I started blogging that I even considered the possibility of other people writing content on my blogs. That’s not the case for Vanessa.

Just 3 months in she’s already had two guest posts. Both have been submitted by the one person – a good family friend – but both posts have added something to the blog that V couldn’t have written herself.

The key is that she’s found someone who writes in a similar voice and that the posts have complemented existing content on the blog (for example this post from Mandy on toys for Girls was a follow up to one V wrote on toys for boys).

7. Visuals and Creating Content for Social

CR-CollageA couple of weeks ago I shared some great image creation tools that I use to create visual content for my blogs. Vanessa is also a convert to PicMonkey and Canva and a regular feature of her posts are collages of the products that she’s talking about.

I suspect that the visual element of her blogging will only evolve in time but these simple collages have been really popular with readers and I think are a big part of the reason that her Facebook Page has had great engagement.

Visual content is gold – particularly on social!!!

Lots More to Learn

By no means am I suggesting that Vanessa has arrived or is a poster child of blogging. She has a lot more to learn (as do I). I just have loved watching her growth and development in these early months.

What did you learn about blogging in the first few months that has stuck with you ever since?

About Darren Rowse
Darren Rowse is the founder and editor of ProBlogger Blog Tips and Digital Photography School. Learn more about him here and connect with him on Twitter, Facebook and LinkedIn.
Comments
  1. Its seriously outstanding write-up Darren. I always certainly not read through and all sorts of facts you just described are very lesser however substantial. I am aware this might get more involvement in my articles. Appreciate it!

  2. #7 Points highlighted above surly helps to new blogger to achieve thier goals and become the successful blogger.By the way Happy Anniversary to Vanessa .

    • I love this blog, it gives me tons of information that is really helping me.

      One tip for you: add pictures to your older posts that have great info, but when shared on social media that loves pictures {like Pinterest} has limited options {like your current but unrelated-to-blog-post ads}.

      Even a simple “wordart” in paint of the blog post title with a cool font is a good start.

  3. Wow! What an amazing blog she has. Bright, colourful and a nice friendly tone. She’s bound to surpass you in a year or so:)

  4. Awesome achievement Vanessa,

    Keep it up,

    I like the visual content point. Images are so much powerful than words.
    Thanks for sharing this Darren.

  5. I totally agree with your wife. But sometime it’s very hard to manage audience in social media as there are plenty of works to do at FB, Google+, Twitter, Pinterest, Foursquare, instagram and bla bla bla…
    I better love to make my site a place for social interaction by adding a forum on it.

  6. Different persons have different thoughts. But your writing on your wife’s thought makes me interested of being a perfect blogger. Thanks a lot.

  7. Superb advice you have got from your mate.! Community management and relationship developement ins one of greatest lessons for a successful blogging journey! Peace!

  8. V – I meant to comment earlier and as any busy mom knows, time just gets away. It’s so good to see you blogging and enjoying what you are doing. I have always enjoyed his more personal posts that have shared you and your little guys with the world – now, to have you joining the blogging world – I am very happy for all of you.

    I have been a longtime fan of Darren and have had the pleasure of working with him a few times and to learn from him for many years now. I was the one who had the horrible flood and the Problogger Book saved me from financial ruin. I owe him and Chris so much.

  9. Looks like she is doing awesome Darren!

    Just goes to show once again it’s all about hard work, dedicated and commitment

  10. I always consult my wife on everything I create online. I’m a nerd who’s happy behind the computer screen, she’s an outgoing person. She always has useful tips for me.

  11. The thing I learned in my first few months of blogging was how important it is to engage with my readers and other bloggers. The blogging community if full of wonderful people and everyone I have come across is extremely helpful. It is definitely a “let’s help each other out” mentality.

  12. I think in future its trend of female bloggers in this blogosphere:)

  13. Hi Darren, loving hearing about Vanessa’s blog–just visited and yes, it rocks! Thanks for suggesting the image creation tools. My blog and social following is about 50/50 female/male, and I’ve found images are huge hits. Getting ready for my selfie now…

    But seriously. great info, thanks!

  14. VERY interesting for e brand new blogger. Looking foreward to follow your advice – THANK YOU :-)

  15. I’ve been blogging for seven years now, but I still often feel like a newbie at this game… there’s always more to learn to improve my blogging! These are great tips. Thanks so much for sharing! And congrats to Vanessa on all of her successes. :)

  16. Vanessa has done an amazing job to date for all the reasons you’ve outlined above. She’s blogging about a topic that she knows inside and out and LOVES. And that shows!

  17. Well it does just go to show when your hearts in it for engaging others and you are really interested in blogging about what you love the rankings come naturally

  18. Absolutely terrific stuff, Darren.

    I love the fact that often newbie bloggers come up with super-cool tips to make their blog awesome – things that even the old pros (ahem, ahem YOU) might not have thought of yet. :)

    GREAT post!

    Regards,
    JR John

  19. Seriously, I was not expecting this post to be so much informative. I thought it was just humorous one or so as most people do about their wives. But this one turned out different. I really appreciate the point you mentioned to get off your blog and I think it is the most important one into the entire list that you have presented. Thank you so much and good luck to Vanessa for her blog. :)

  20. You nailed it with this list. Sounds like she is doing it all right, and I’m eager to check out her blog! I think it is really hard to keep up that level of engagement as the community grows. I TRY to respond to comments/FB/Tweets as much as possible, but it does get time consuming. Still, I do my best because I LOVE the community aspect of blogging.

    I think the Getting Off the blog is a great tip too, and one we tend to forget to do as we get busier. I need to commit to doing this more!

  21. Lots of great points provided in this post that I’ve got to keep in mind. I think from the beginning of my 5 year old blog, the thing that I remember is to be authentic in the way I write, using my own words, lingo, writing style, as if the person reading my posts is right next to me in person. But there are lots of lessons that I’m still open to continually learning!
    Thanks,
    Roz

  22. Hi Darren, It is very interesting and simple to understand. How she is managing with three active boys in house ?. It will inspire other mothers also. I will tell my wife to read this blog. :)

  23. It can learn many things about internet, and it may be useful at others.

  24. It’s important to understand your audience and bring what your audience want. That’s way can really help your blog slowly grow up and your wife is amazing (Y)

  25. That’s a very engaging blog indeed, I am so happy that your wife decided to explore your world, I am sure that in the coming days she will also be known as “problogger” like you!

    And Sir, I would like you to know that you greatly affected me as a newbie blogger, and I can’t forget this line “building blogs is like building muscles!” I often quoted that because that’s a very practical help to survive in the blogosphere!

  26. Someone just asked me the other day about blogging and if they should change their CMS platform from what they’re currently using. I recommend it WordPress to them and then I stumbled upon a blog post and YouTube video from Labnol. I just created a recommendation forum thread discussing the importance of upgrading a blog from blogger to WordPress. Many people to this very day don’t understand the power behind blogging and having your voice heard on the World Wide Web. If you personally ask me Darren, I would tell everyone that blogging is definitely a great way to building up one’s self to earning a full-time income on the Internet, because people from all walks of life will come out of the woodworks to stop by your blog and see what you have posted. Thank you for being a blogging leader and keeping us inspired.

  27. Really awesome and inspiring Darren. I really appreciate the initiate of your wife.

  28. It’s Great! Vanessa, HOLA :)
    I’ve started with blog for 3 year, but i have yet do any thing :(

  29. Style and Shenanigans is an awesome blog. Really like the design and contents of the blog. As a new blogger she is doing really well. Surely I’ll keep in mind all the points, you have mentioned in the post. Thanks for the share.

  30. What a fantastic achievement by your wife. It just goes to show what you can actually achieve if you put your mind to it.

    Well done

    Morgan

  31. Great to read Vanessa’s success. Although after two months of blogging, I have only tens of readers, I am consider myself a success. From a tech adverse guy, I have learn to set up my website by reading and watching You Tube, design my own header, successfully changed domain name once and managed to write about 27 posts. I am still resistant to the many ideas to increase traffic because I am enjoying writing and tweaking my site but I guess if I want to monetize, I have to start listening and quit resisting. You are one of my inspirations. Thank you.

  32. Big brother i might be small to say this but you write a book on this thing.
    I mean what happens around when both husband and wife are blogger.
    A good post of real man!
    Respect!

  33. Hello Sir,
    Seeing the success of Vanessa mam, Most of Newbies like us, gets a kind of role model. It spretty much good to hear that she carried out all this by her own. Most of the time we do feel we could have been helped someway to get our things right. but reading this, i don’t think i would be giving a reason to myself that i am not good because there is no one to hint me. Thanks for sharing this with us sir.

  34. It’s good to get ideas for your blogging from others and getting involve own wife will help a lot. she exactly knows you and will help you a lot. You can easily get ideas just focusing a little more like you can convert relationship stability into readership consistency, etc.

    It’s good to see Darren you’re really happy with your married life and hope you gonna be happy.

  35. Good luck with the blog! I like it very much and I already subscribed!

  36. What an inspirational story.

    I have a friend who is starting a fashion blog. I’ll forward the article to her. She might like to use the program for making a collage of items.

    Rita

  37. She is beautiful. Anyway, maybe I can to inspire my own wife to try make a site / blog. She suffers depression and maybe write about it can help.

  38. Good tips to bare in mind – they are all useful. My favorite is the focusing on helpful content; sometimes we can get so self-absorbed we can forget this one. Always try to add value to your content; your personality will shine through regardless.

  39. Family support is the biggest backbone of a blogger. A blogger needs to work day and night. Update the breaking news at it comes and what not.
    I hope when I grow up, my wife will also support me in whatever ventures I do.

  40. This is such an insightful post! I wish I had come to these conclusions after my first three months of blogging (years ago now!).

  41. Nice lessons and I picked a thing or two that I would implement in my own business.

  42. Hi, Darren, I have been watching your blog from 3 months and I must say that This is really a awesome piece of informative and inspirational post. I am also happy that you have share it with us. I also congrats your wife for a steady success in her blogging journey. Good luck and keep posted with lots of good and informative contents.

  43. you know what they say ‘behind every great man is a great wife’ or something like that. it seems like she’s really been observing you and had her two cents to throw in. Its always great to get a different perspective than yourself. thanks for the blog post!

  44. I should say that this lady has made a lot of discoveries for a 3-moth-blogger. She can get really successful in it.

  45. I think she is going to be a very sucessful blogger in 2014

  46. Great success in just 3 months but with a teacher like Darren you cant expect anything less.

  47. ah women! They make the world go round.
    I am always impressed by how we can learn from our partners when we think we got our s**t together.

    Thanks for reminding me to keep an open mind.

  48. Well done Vanessa. I just started out with a little photoblog ( http://www.fabulous-femme.com ) here in Melbourne. (haha … just realised you live around the corner) just 6 months ago … so not much longer than you. I post mainly photos and not enough text … but hey … it’s for fun.

    Will be interesting to see how you are going (with Darren as “backup” help) … all the best!

  49. Great post as always. Just went through your wife’s blog and its indeed a good blog as you have described. Nice engagement found there.

    Glad to see her blogging as well.

  50. She is doing awesome for only blogging 3 months!!!

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